In order to put the vast topic of the search for one’s soul-mate into proper perspective, we must look at it from the highest and most inclusive vantage point. We are all part of one great whole, extensions of ever greater and fuller levels of beingness and unity. What we are ultimately seeking is the merger back to Source. This occurs in varying and graded successions, but must ultimately lead back through all 352 levels of the Godhead, which is our journey through the Mahatma or the Avatar of Synthesis.
Although we indeed merge and blend with the next level above us, we retain our individuality. It came through Melchizedek–and likewise, Djwhal Khul in the Alice Bailey material–that the body one will manifest on the higher planes is usually the body in which one takes one’s ascension. Some ascended masters choose to take the youthful form of that body. Others will maintain the appearance of the age they were when they took their ascension. In part, this is so their disciples can recognize them in the form in which they knew them on this side of the veil. This can be seen in the cases of Djwhal Khul and Sri Yukteswar of the Self Realization Fellowship and lineage, to name just two.
A major point of significance in this area is that one retains one’s specific gender; that is the masters retain a feminine or masculine appearance through all the cosmic dimensions, all the way back to their cosmic ascension. This is a vital point when discussing the matter of soul mates, and from a much broader aspect, the divine feminine/masculine principles intrinsic to the cosmic structure itself. This includes how various ascended planetary and cosmic masters function via the yin/yang forces of nature, as well as the pairing of the Archangels and the Elohim who likewise function through the male/female counterpart. Please refer to my book The Complete Ascension Manual for a specific chart on the pairing of these incredible cosmic beings.
It might be wise then, to review a topic which I have endeavored to explain in detail in my book, The Complete Ascension Manual. This is the fact that we are each a soul, or soul extension, of an oversoul. The individualized soul or the soul extension functions as one of twelve souls that belong to a soul family or oversoul, and the experiences gained through each soul’s unique incarnations hopefully adds and contributes to the development of the oversoul itself. But there comes a point when one of the more dedicated and spiritually motivated members of that particular soul grouping is given the task to do the work for its entire family, or oversoul.
Each oversoul is one of twelve oversouls that belong to a specific monad. The oversouls then expand into merger with the greater monadic family. Then the monads themselves take group formation into ever expanding wholes as we continue the process of ever-ascending. What can be clearly seen is that what we are dealing with is the merger into greater and greater group wholes, spiritual families or spiritual groupings. This is a very important point to understand if we are to have any true perspective when approaching the subject of finding one’s soul-mate.
Finding Your Soul Mate
The process of finding your soul mate is not what one generally thinks. Often times, a soul extension is part of your same soul family, but their particular development is along quite different lines than yours and is not by any means the person or mate that you think that you are seeking. This can apply to the monadic realms as well. Two individuals may be a part of the same monad, but their work and means of evolution may not be in harmony. In such instances, if you do indeed encounter one another, you may find that you do not especially bond, as your specific contributions to the whole are not at all aligned. This is usually, but not always, the case.
On the other hand, you may find that you encounter someone from a different monad that is functioning much more as a complement to the way in which you are functioning. When the two of you meet you may be certain that you have met your soul-mate, when in fact you have met someone from another oversoul, and most probably from another monad altogether. Because you are each holding very similar positions in relation to your particular monad, you immediately will recognize that there is a joint work for you to do. You probably will be of a compatible nature, which will make it feel as if you are part of the same oversoul,
The fact is, most of humanity, lightworkers included, have a definition of soul-mate that is simply not applicable from the soul level. The understanding of soul-extensions is just now coming to light, and therefore, the misinterpretation of soul-mates in general IS more often than not the case. This same statement applies likewise to the term “twin- flame” which is often talked about with very little thought or understanding.
Your twin-flame indeed is someone of a special and unique nature to you. However, it first must be understood, that they, like a soul-mate are not usually, if ever, from the same oversoul, or even from the same monad. Your twin-flame is a being with whom you have bonded through eons of time, in both your outer plane and inner plane work. It is this shared work that makes it seem as if one you are connected through the oversoul or monad. More often than not, your twin flame will manifest in the opposite sex to your own, you will feel as though you are indeed two parts of the same whole. There may be specific lifetimes in which you have come in as the same sex in order to do a particular type of work. However, on the inner planes you will more than likely each hold either the masculine or the feminine principle, so as to function in as complementary a fashion as possible.